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The Quarter-Life Crisis
So they’ve pushed you 13-17 years through the education system and unless you are going to continue that streak with grad school or med school, it’s off into the real world we go. The problem is, how does a 21-year-old like myself apply everything I’ve learned in those many years of schooling into real life? Life is much more complicated than the typical human being’s status quo - getting an education, finding a job, starting a family, and hopefully, living happily ever after.
A lot of the problem is that you know what you want to do, but you don’t know the steps on how to get there. There is a misunderstanding between the notions of the societal pressures we face as the leading generation of young workers and entrepreneurs and the fact that, if we don’t live up to society’s expectations we won’t amount to anything. These concerns are flying through my mind, and many other soon-to-be graduates. There is a huge pressure on people my age who, fresh out of the education system’s womb, need to find what we want to do and get paid a great salary. Well sometimes you just don’t know what you want to do and then you start to have existential headaches. To put it plain and simple you ask yourself, “What the fuck am I going to do with my life?” Thus we have a quarter-life crisis. And unfortunately we don’t have enough money to buy a bright yellow Porsche boxster to make us feel better about our underachievements.
The one thing I fear most in life is having a monotonous 9-5 job. I don’t want to wake up at 7AM just to wait in traffic for two hours. I don’t want to have a 30 minute lunch break only to find that someone rummaged through my brown paper bag and stole my favorite apple sauce, along with the plastic spoon to eat it. I don’t want to, as T.S. Eliot said perfectly, “measure my life with coffee spoons.”
So what do I want, you may ask. I want expressive freedom over my life. I want to wake up every morning and create and innovate. I want to fulfill everyday knowing that I was happy and exercised my brain to it’s highest potential. I’ve always been the type of girl to do everything in my own unique way. In fact, the complete opposite of what society expects of me. If everyone was buying nude stilettos for spring, I would opt for a fluorescent green pair. My biggest problem in life wasn’t figuring out what I wanted to do, but rather, what I was good at. Now with the word “talent,” I often think of what I can do well enough to be able to get up on stage and perform my quirky trick in order to win people over. But talent resides in more than meets the eye. It took me a long time to find out what I was good at and it wasn’t until recently I realized my talent.
I love to write. I wouldn’t necessarily say that writing is my talent, because there are authors, poets and intellectuals around the world that would scoff at my grammar mistakes. Instead I think my talent is storytelling. I have the ability to take words and entrance people’s minds with visuals, rhetoric and anecdotes. With my talent, I want to find a job in freelance journalism and even write my own book one day. Now that isn’t the most sane of career paths in terms of paying back student loans or even affording rent, but it is one that I know will fulfill me and lead towards personal growth. It’s not what is expected of me. But I know I’m going to do something great, even if I followed a different path than everyone else.
If you are having a quarter-life crisis, it is important that you find out what you are good at. This could be anything. Seriously, anything. Someone or something has a need for your skill in the world, so don’t feel detached. When you have a strong sense of your talents, it will be easier to apply what you are good at, to what you think want to do in life. Knowing that you are good at something will lead to higher self-confidence. Also, don’t feel like you need to fit into the mold of the “status quo human being.” Just because you aren’t some hot-shot CEO of a company with an Ivy League degree doesn’t mean you didn’t live your life to your highest aspirations. Remember that there isn’t one formula to be successful. As long as you are taking your talents and using them to the best of your capabilities, you are doing just fine.
Deep breathe. Start exercising your talents. Think of how to apply them to your future. You got this. Crisis averted!
Backstage at Zuhair Murad Haute Couture Spring/Summer 2014
Tonight I’m exercising my right as a 21-year-old.
In Vogue Italia’s new horror flick filmed by Gordon Von Steiner and photographed by Steven Meisel featuring Issa Lish, we see a frightened protagonist turned femme fatale. At first glance from the editorial photos, it seems as if the women are the ones who are abused and murdered. This editorial has struck the idea that Vogue Italia is “glamorizing domestic violence.”
The domestic violence theme was composed by editor-in-chief Franca Sozzani, she wanted to shed light on the fact that there is a constant problem of women being assaulted throughout the world. She explains her stance on the domestic violence issue stating, “This is really a horror show, what we are looking at and what we see every day in every newspaper around the world is how fragile the woman still is today, and how she can be attacked, can be abused and can be killed” (Vogue Italia). The editorial is controversial, but it definitely seems more Hollywood horror than grotesque abuse. Although the photos fit the theme for domestic violence, the film tells the actual horror story. My first reaction to the photos was, “Why are women always the victim? I’d love to see some bad ass ladies layered in Prada slaying some dudes, not the other way around.” And that’s exactly what we see at the end of the film.
Issa Lish channels the iconic Wendy Torrance from the psycho killer movie, The Shinning. Wendy starts off weak and timid, but in the end defeats her husband in a bloody clash, locking him in a food pantry and eventually escaping with her son. Issa even resembles Wendy. This story is not about weak women at all, it is the opposite. It is about powerful women, standing up and fighting for themselves.
She stands up to evil and defeats him.