This post is going to be the easiest, yet most difficult thing to write. I have so many emotions running around in my head, and I’ve been in a state of flux about this whole thing for a while. I bounce around from feelings of relief, to fear of judgment, to the anxiety of people’s responses. I know this is going to be shocking to many people, but before Scott leaves for deployment I wanted to tell you all something…
It’s not easy coming clean, especially when you’ve been holding something in for so long, hiding it from your family and friends. I don’t want to lie anymore. I want to be able to tell everyone, even scream it from the mountain tops!
I wanted to let you all know that I am married to my husband, Scott. Phew. I know this sounds silly, but I just cried writing that sentence. It feels so good to finally tell everyone, but at the same time I know people will be confused, judge me, and/or have already assumed. For a while I’ve been referring to Scott as my fiancé to my family, friends, on my blog and social media accounts – the truth is we are married.
Now I know how confusing this is, I’m sure people are wondering a few questions such as: Why didn’t she just tell everyone? What about a wedding ceremony? Why didn’t she tell me? Being a military spouse is something that the majority of people cannot relate to. These types of secret marriages are actually more common than you think. You have to consider the move to a rural part of the country, the lack of jobs, the danger of the career in the military. Most people get married to protect their loved one, if anything were to go wrong – they know their spouse will be taken care of.
I know this is probably one of the craziest things you’ve heard, but I am so happy with the way things happened. Backwards or not. To get married before being engaged is a bit strange. And to be married and get engaged before having a ceremony is even more bizarre. But you know what? Scott and I are so completely content that we don’t want to follow any status quo’s. You get married because you love each other and want to support each other – not just for the diamond ring and the elaborate wedding.
So are we going to have a wedding? Yes. But just like the timeline of our story, it will probably blow your mind. Hey, we just like to keep everyone on their toes I guess, haha! Our plan is to do something EPIC. I don’t want to spill the details quite yet, as it will be in 2018 and there is still SO much planning to do. But it involves world travel, experiencing new cultures and religions, and hiking. So stay tuned for the next saga of “Scott and Taylor: Doing Things Completely Ass Backwards Part II”
I know this might be a lot to take in, but please don’t hate me or Scott for not telling you personally. I would appreciate all of your love and support and congratulations are still being accepted, hehe! Thank you to my followers of my blog for your continuous support of my fashion endeavors and blogging career. I really love each and every one of you and I hope you can understand why I refrained from telling everyone.
So with a final sigh of relief I can finally say it.
I am a wife. I have a husband. I am a military spouse. And I am the happiest girl in the world.