This post is going to be the easiest, yet most difficult thing to write. I have so many emotions running around in my head, and I’ve been in a state of flux about this whole thing for a while. I bounce around from feelings of relief, to fear of judgment, to the anxiety of people’s responses. I know this is going to be shocking to many people, but before Scott leaves for deployment I wanted to tell you all something…
It’s not easy coming clean, especially when you’ve been holding something in for so long, hiding it from your family and friends. I don’t want to lie anymore. I want to be able to tell everyone, even scream it from the mountain tops!
I wanted to let you all know that I am married to my husband, Scott. Phew. I know this sounds silly, but I just cried writing that sentence. It feels so good to finally tell everyone, but at the same time I know people will be confused, judge me, and/or have already assumed. For a while I’ve been referring to Scott as my fiancé to my family, friends, on my blog and social media accounts – the truth is we are married.
Now I know how confusing this is, I’m sure people are wondering a few questions such as: Why didn’t she just tell everyone? What about a wedding ceremony? Why didn’t she tell me? Being a military spouse is something that the majority of people cannot relate to. These types of secret marriages are actually more common than you think. You have to consider the move to a rural part of the country, the lack of jobs, the danger of the career in the military. Most people get married to protect their loved one, if anything were to go wrong – they know their spouse will be taken care of.
I know this is probably one of the craziest things you’ve heard, but I am so happy with the way things happened. Backwards or not. To get married before being engaged is a bit strange. And to be married and get engaged before having a ceremony is even more bizarre. But you know what? Scott and I are so completely content that we don’t want to follow any status quo’s. You get married because you love each other and want to support each other – not just for the diamond ring and the elaborate wedding.
So are we going to have a wedding? Yes. But just like the timeline of our story, it will probably blow your mind. Hey, we just like to keep everyone on their toes I guess, haha! Our plan is to do something EPIC. I don’t want to spill the details quite yet, as it will be in 2018 and there is still SO much planning to do. But it involves world travel, experiencing new cultures and religions, and hiking. So stay tuned for the next saga of “Scott and Taylor: Doing Things Completely Ass Backwards Part II”
I know this might be a lot to take in, but please don’t hate me or Scott for not telling you personally. I would appreciate all of your love and support and congratulations are still being accepted, hehe! Thank you to my followers of my blog for your continuous support of my fashion endeavors and blogging career. I really love each and every one of you and I hope you can understand why I refrained from telling everyone.
So with a final sigh of relief I can finally say it.
I am a wife. I have a husband. I am a military spouse. And I am the happiest girl in the world.
Kristin KruseDecember 30, 2016
YAY, YAY, YAYYY!!!! Love this. Thank you for being YOU. Thank you so much for being open & honest and doing things your way. I’m so happy that you’re a wife and have found such love with Scott. Been sending prayers for his deployment and for you during it as well. Happy 2016 babe and cheers to all that is to come for you both!
AmberDecember 30, 2016
Aww congratulations love! Thank you so much for sharing this post. You both are adorable and I wish you the best in 2017!!
Tiffani at Breton BayDecember 30, 2016
“I am a wife. I have a husband. I am a military spouse. And I am the happiest girl in the world.” and that is what matters!! My husband and I have been married for 8 1/2 years and the longer you stay married, the more you appreciate that it is about TRUE LOVE and being with your BEST FRIEND!! Life is full of so many ups and downs…big ones and every day ones. What matters is being with someone you can easily communicate with and even after a fight, you still love him with everything you have!!! Do what’s best for y’all and I can’t wait to follow your ‘A&& backwards’ EPIC wedding plans!!!! hehehe
Nicole LeffewDecember 30, 2016
Yay babe! So glad you don’t have to keep it a secret anymore! You two are the cutest and your right being married is about true love not the ring or wedding!!
Maria D.December 30, 2016
EmilyDecember 30, 2016
Girl, I am admiring your strength! And happy for you- because you truly do look SO happy. You both do, that radiates! I’m excited to follow along on this journey, and see what you have in store!
AllyDecember 30, 2016
“Scott and Taylor Doing Things Completely Ass Backwards Part II” had me DYING. You are so special, sweet Taylor! A big congrats to you and your husband. xx
JessicaDecember 30, 2016
Congratulations! This is so exciting! You both look so happy! Only good things in 2017 and beyond!
IlonaDecember 30, 2016
Aww this is so sweet! One of my best friends got married before they were able to do anything big bc he was being deployed. There is no shame in that, protecting the ones you love is what it comes down to. Congratulations to you both ❤️
EmikyDecember 30, 2016
I loved reading this post! Yay for being married!
DanielDecember 30, 2016
Wow! I know it’s kind of crazy but congratulations!!! I’m just wondering what were your responds from your family?
tayloraubeDecember 30, 2016
Our immediate family knows, so it’s just the extended aunts, uncles and cousins that don’t know. I have a lot of friends from college and childhood that don’t know. So far everyone has been very supportive, which I’m so grateful for 🙂
AshleyDecember 30, 2016
Congrats!!! All the best for 2017 and thank you to your HUSBAND for his service to our Great Nation!!
AmandaDecember 30, 2016
Awww! Yay! Beautiful announcement. I remember talking to you about that at work it’s not easy. Not everyone will care for the decision, but it’s your life! Love ya girly!
StephaniDecember 30, 2016
Congratulations!!! I’m so happy for you!! I wish you both all the best!!! Xoxo
AlexDecember 30, 2016
MAJOR congrats!!!! That is so beautiful. There is nothing better then love and support, no matter how you rock it. Cheers to you and Scott!
GretaDecember 30, 2016
Congratulations! This is such exciting news. Wishing you and your husband all the best!
Greta | http://www.gretahollar.com
Shelby BackDecember 30, 2016
Oh my gosh, this is amazing! Congratulations to you two! Marriage is a beautiful gift and who cares if y’all did things ‘backwards’! All that matters is you two and your love for each other 🙂 Y’all are adorable by the way! Congrats again!
Ashley DTKAustinDecember 30, 2016
SO happy for you babe! And there is NOTHING wrong with keeping this under wraps… I did that for a long time with a previous marriage and we told people when the time was right. You do you!! I can’t wait to see was 2017 has in store for y’all! 🙂
Kristen AndersonDecember 30, 2016
This is great news! Congrats you and your husband! Your marriage is to eachother and sharing it was on your own time and that’s beautiful. Enjoy and I can’t wait to hear more details on the wedding adventure
Anna EnglishDecember 30, 2016
Y’all are so cute! Wishing you the best in 2017 lady!
Courtney BentleyDecember 30, 2016
Congrats and I totally get it I have many friends who have military spouses and it just makes sense! These photos are beautiful of you two and I am so excited to see all of these world travel photos and watch you two explore the world together!! Congratulations and cheers to a blooming 2017
Courtney Bentley || http://www.courtneyvioletbentley.com
emilyDecember 30, 2016
So beautifully written! Love you guys lots ❤❤❤
ZarrinDecember 30, 2016
Congrats! It might not be the norm, but when ya know, ya know. Who cares if you don’t make an engagement to be married, it’s the marriage that counts and it sounds like you were 100% sure. So I’m happy to hear that you’re happy!
Mili WifeyDecember 30, 2016
Yay!! Welcome to the milso family!
NikkiDecember 30, 2016
Absolutely love and admire your bravery and strength to share something so personal for you! Looking forward to seeing more from you!
MaggieDecember 30, 2016
I know someone else who did this!! They did a small courthouse wedding and then about two years later had their “real” wedding with friends and family. Love how you were able to share this!
RoselynnDecember 30, 2016
I adore you friend!! Everyone has their own timeline and I thank you for sharing yours with us!! Sending you all my love!!
KylaDecember 30, 2016
Congrats beautiful! Thanks for sharing! Can’t wait to see what you have in store for the ceremony!!
Laura @ Walking in Memphis in High HeelsDecember 30, 2016
Congratulations on your marriage! Being a military spouse is such a unique position to be in life – wishing you and your husbands many blessing while he is deployed!
ShannonDecember 30, 2016
Taylor! A huge CONGRATS to you! Having things to YOUR story is what makes it even more special. I can’t wait to tune in for the wedding planning and your DRESS! These photos are stunning – you two are such a handsome coupl! Sending you so much LOVE!!!! x Shannon
JackieDecember 30, 2016
Aww, congrats girl! I’m so happy for the two of you. Welcome to the married club! I’m sure it must provide Scott with a sense of relief ( and security) when he leaves for his tours. Being a military spouse is not easy, having to move around a lot and the worry that comes with deployment… You are one tough cookie! What I learned from my wedding is that the people that love you guys will be happy for you no matter what! Thank you for sharing with us! Congrats again! Wishing you both all the best for 2017!
PentenéDecember 30, 2016
Phew! I didn’t know what you were going to say, but yay for the both of you. Congrats on your new life journey together! Wishing you nothing but the best and hopes that everyone understand your decision. Xoxo
NatalyDecember 30, 2016
Congrats girl! This wonderful news! I am so very happy for you and your hubby! Wishing you the best 2017 yet! xo
VanessaDecember 30, 2016
I love this. It saddens me sometimes to see how stressed couples get because of the social “norms” involved with marriage. I’m glad you two went along your own beaten path!
Vanessa | http://www.vanessarenae.com
AnnaDecember 30, 2016
Congrats, Taylor!!!! When it comes to love there is no, or shouldn’t be any, judging. You gotta do what you gotta do and what works for you. I can’t wait to follow along your epic wedding plans and your love story as it continues. Much love to you both! XO ~Anna http://www.pepperedinstyle.com
KelseyDecember 31, 2016
CONGRATS GIRLFRIEND! A lot of my family is in the military so I 100% know how it is! Congrats again and hope y’all have a great 2017!
xo Kelsey | http://www.chasingcinderellablog.com
Kait ElizabethDecember 31, 2016
“I am a wife. I have a husband. I am a military spouse. And I am the happiest girl in the world.” This. I can’t even express how much I relate to this. I am so proud of you for sharing this and being so open and vulnerable. Any relationship is hard- the military just takes it to the next level. Drew and I got married quicker than planned because we didn’t want to wait a year while he was deployed. People thought we were crazy but we have absolutely no regrets! Love you. Hugs, Kait
GailDecember 31, 2016
Aww Taylor, this is great news! Congratulations to you and Scott – I’m so happy for you both! I wish you all the joy and happiness that you deserve. Xoxo
Nichole GallagherDecember 31, 2016
Hey girly, CONGRATS!!!!! <3 I can't imagine the anxiety, fear, somewhat sadness of not being able to share this for SO LONG! YAY!!! I seriously cannot wait to hear what you guys are going to do in 2018 … sounds freaking epic and you only said a few words hahahah ~ It has got to feel especially good to get this off of your chest before he leaves !!! Even though we don't know each other like that, I'm proud of you and I'm so stinking excited for you guys =) Congrats again and I'll be toasting to you guys tonight!!
RuthieDecember 31, 2016
CONGRATS!!!! I can see nothing but pure joy illuminating from the two of you!! I am SO happy for you!! Praying for grace and strength while he is away!!
SamanthaDecember 31, 2016
Thanks for sharing Taylor!! Happy New Years Eve to you and Have and amazing 2017!!
KusumDecember 31, 2016
Awww so happy for you Taylor and a big Congrats, both on the wedding and being able to open up and tell the world about it! The ring, wedding, etc are not more important than being in love and wanting to share the rest of your lives together no matter what. You two are adorable and I am sure you have a lot of great things in store for the both of you. Can’t wait to follow along all your backwards journey! Here’s to a wonderful 2017 and beyond.
xx, Kusum | http://www.sveeteskapes.com
DonnaJanuary 1, 2017
Taylor this is so beautiful and such a definition of love!!! F the status quo seriously!!! I’m so proud of you and thanks for sharing this brave story! Happy new year gorgeous! Xxxxx
Jenna at Boston Chic PartyJanuary 2, 2017
Taylor, Congratulations!!! I am SO happy for you and so excited for you and your hubby to start your new chapter together. Wishing you all the best my friend!
Boston Chic Party
JaimeJanuary 2, 2017
Congrats on sharing your news!! I’m sure it wasn’t easy keeping a secret like that, and it probably feels SO good to have it out in the open. Wishing you and your HUSBAND a wonderful new year!! xo
toby knopflerJanuary 3, 2017
Thank you for sharing your story and trusting us. i wish you both all the best and great happiness in your marriage! xx toby http://www.poshandspicy.com
NicoleJanuary 4, 2017
Congratulations! That must have been such a hard secret to keep. Can’t wait to start witnesding your wedding plans! Happy 2017!
BethanyJanuary 5, 2017
I just stumbled upon your Instagram & then this blog post, and I’m so glad I did! My husband is also military and we did the exact same thing! I never announced it like this though, and there are many times I wish that I had (we pretended to most people that our wedding ceremony was when we really got married). You rock for sharing this awesome news with the world! I’m learning that doing it this way is more common than I thought among military couples ;). Cheers to doing things how you want and CONGRATS on becoming a wifey!!! xoxo
tayloraubeJanuary 5, 2017
Thank you so much for your kind words Bethany. Isn’t it crazy how many women are in such similar situations, yet there is still a slight stigma about “the way it’s supposed to be done”? As we both know the military certainly does not cater to that ideology! Thank you again!!
CaitlinJanuary 11, 2017
Congrats and best wishes1
Caitlin, Beauty & Colour
JosephinaJanuary 21, 2017
Congratulations, Taylor! I don’t know why anyone would judge you, it’s completely understandable. Beautiful photos of you and your husband!!