I’ve Got a Confession to Make…


This post is going to be the easiest, yet most difficult thing to write. I have so many emotions running around in my head, and I’ve been in a state of flux about this whole thing for a while. I bounce around from feelings of relief, to fear of judgment, to the anxiety of people’s responses. I know this is going to be shocking to many people, but before Scott leaves for deployment I wanted to tell you all something…

It’s not easy coming clean, especially when you’ve been holding something in for so long, hiding it from your family and friends. I don’t want to lie anymore. I want to be able to tell everyone, even scream it from the mountain tops!

I wanted to let you all know that I am married to my husband, Scott. Phew. I know this sounds silly, but I just cried writing that sentence. It feels so good to finally tell everyone, but at the same time I know people will be confused, judge me, and/or have already assumed. For a while I’ve been referring to Scott as my fiancé to my family, friends, on my blog and social media accounts – the truth is we are married.

Now I know how confusing this is, I’m sure people are wondering a few questions such as: Why didn’t she just tell everyone? What about a wedding ceremony? Why didn’t she tell me? Being a military spouse is something that the majority of people cannot relate to. These types of secret marriages are actually more common than you think. You have to consider the move to a rural part of the country, the lack of jobs, the danger of the career in the military. Most people get married to protect their loved one, if anything were to go wrong – they know their spouse will be taken care of.

I know this is probably one of the craziest things you’ve heard, but I am so happy with the way things happened. Backwards or not. To get married before being engaged is a bit strange. And to be married and get engaged before having a ceremony is even more bizarre. But you know what? Scott and I are so completely content that we don’t want to follow any status quo’s. You get married because you love each other and want to support each other – not just for the diamond ring and the elaborate wedding.

So are we going to have a wedding? Yes. But just like the timeline of our story, it will probably blow your mind. Hey, we just like to keep everyone on their toes I guess, haha! Our plan is to do something EPIC. I don’t want to spill the details quite yet, as it will be in 2018 and there is still SO much planning to do. But it involves world travel, experiencing new cultures and religions, and hiking. So stay tuned for the next saga of “Scott and Taylor: Doing Things Completely Ass Backwards Part II

I know this might be a lot to take in, but please don’t hate me or Scott for not telling you personally. I would appreciate all of your love and support and congratulations are still being accepted, hehe! Thank you to my followers of my blog for your continuous support of my fashion endeavors and blogging career. I really love each and every one of you and I hope you can understand why I refrained from telling everyone.

So with a final sigh of relief I can finally say it.

I am a wife. I have a husband. I am a military spouse. And I am the happiest girl in the world.

3.25.14

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52 Comments

  1. December 30, 2016 / 2:40 PM

    YAY, YAY, YAYYY!!!! Love this. Thank you for being YOU. Thank you so much for being open & honest and doing things your way. I’m so happy that you’re a wife and have found such love with Scott. Been sending prayers for his deployment and for you during it as well. Happy 2016 babe and cheers to all that is to come for you both!

    xox,
    Kristin

  2. December 30, 2016 / 2:42 PM

    Aww congratulations love! Thank you so much for sharing this post. You both are adorable and I wish you the best in 2017!!

    Xoxo Amber

  3. December 30, 2016 / 2:44 PM

    “I am a wife. I have a husband. I am a military spouse. And I am the happiest girl in the world.” and that is what matters!! My husband and I have been married for 8 1/2 years and the longer you stay married, the more you appreciate that it is about TRUE LOVE and being with your BEST FRIEND!! Life is full of so many ups and downs…big ones and every day ones. What matters is being with someone you can easily communicate with and even after a fight, you still love him with everything you have!!! Do what’s best for y’all and I can’t wait to follow your ‘A&& backwards’ EPIC wedding plans!!!! hehehe

    xoxo
    Tiffani
    http://www.tiffaniatbretonbay.com

  4. December 30, 2016 / 2:45 PM

    Yay babe! So glad you don’t have to keep it a secret anymore! You two are the cutest and your right being married is about true love not the ring or wedding!!

  5. Maria D.
    December 30, 2016 / 3:01 PM

    Congrats!

  6. December 30, 2016 / 3:01 PM

    Girl, I am admiring your strength! And happy for you- because you truly do look SO happy. You both do, that radiates! I’m excited to follow along on this journey, and see what you have in store!
    Emily
    http:/darlingdearestblog.com

  7. December 30, 2016 / 3:13 PM

    “Scott and Taylor Doing Things Completely Ass Backwards Part II” had me DYING. You are so special, sweet Taylor! A big congrats to you and your husband. xx

  8. December 30, 2016 / 3:17 PM

    Aww this is so sweet! One of my best friends got married before they were able to do anything big bc he was being deployed. There is no shame in that, protecting the ones you love is what it comes down to. Congratulations to you both ❤️

  9. December 30, 2016 / 3:20 PM

    I loved reading this post! Yay for being married!

    • tayloraube
      December 30, 2016 / 4:07 PM

      Our immediate family knows, so it’s just the extended aunts, uncles and cousins that don’t know. I have a lot of friends from college and childhood that don’t know. So far everyone has been very supportive, which I’m so grateful for 🙂

  10. December 30, 2016 / 3:46 PM

    Congrats!!! All the best for 2017 and thank you to your HUSBAND for his service to our Great Nation!!

    xoxo

    Ashley

  11. Amanda
    December 30, 2016 / 4:01 PM

    Awww! Yay! Beautiful announcement. I remember talking to you about that at work it’s not easy. Not everyone will care for the decision, but it’s your life! Love ya girly!

  12. December 30, 2016 / 4:21 PM

    MAJOR congrats!!!! That is so beautiful. There is nothing better then love and support, no matter how you rock it. Cheers to you and Scott!

  13. Shelby Back
    December 30, 2016 / 4:40 PM

    Oh my gosh, this is amazing! Congratulations to you two! Marriage is a beautiful gift and who cares if y’all did things ‘backwards’! All that matters is you two and your love for each other 🙂 Y’all are adorable by the way! Congrats again!

    xo!
    Shelby
    http://www.glitterandgingham.com

  14. December 30, 2016 / 4:44 PM

    SO happy for you babe! And there is NOTHING wrong with keeping this under wraps… I did that for a long time with a previous marriage and we told people when the time was right. You do you!! I can’t wait to see was 2017 has in store for y’all! 🙂

  15. December 30, 2016 / 4:44 PM

    This is great news! Congrats you and your husband! Your marriage is to eachother and sharing it was on your own time and that’s beautiful. Enjoy and I can’t wait to hear more details on the wedding adventure

  16. Anna English
    December 30, 2016 / 4:47 PM

    Y’all are so cute! Wishing you the best in 2017 lady!

  17. December 30, 2016 / 4:59 PM

    Congrats and I totally get it I have many friends who have military spouses and it just makes sense! These photos are beautiful of you two and I am so excited to see all of these world travel photos and watch you two explore the world together!! Congratulations and cheers to a blooming 2017

    Courtney Bentley || http://www.courtneyvioletbentley.com

  18. emily
    December 30, 2016 / 5:24 PM

    So beautifully written! Love you guys lots ❤❤❤

  19. December 30, 2016 / 5:34 PM

    Congrats! It might not be the norm, but when ya know, ya know. Who cares if you don’t make an engagement to be married, it’s the marriage that counts and it sounds like you were 100% sure. So I’m happy to hear that you’re happy!

  20. December 30, 2016 / 5:36 PM

    Yay!! Welcome to the milso family!

  21. Nikki
    December 30, 2016 / 6:14 PM

    Absolutely love and admire your bravery and strength to share something so personal for you! Looking forward to seeing more from you!

    XOXO, Nikki
    http://www.casualblonde.com

  22. Maggie
    December 30, 2016 / 6:19 PM

    I know someone else who did this!! They did a small courthouse wedding and then about two years later had their “real” wedding with friends and family. Love how you were able to share this!

    http://www.maggiealamode.com

  23. December 30, 2016 / 6:21 PM

    I adore you friend!! Everyone has their own timeline and I thank you for sharing yours with us!! Sending you all my love!!

    Xo, Roselyn

  24. Kyla
    December 30, 2016 / 6:29 PM

    Congrats beautiful! Thanks for sharing! Can’t wait to see what you have in store for the ceremony!!
    Kyla
    Wanderluskyla.com

  25. December 30, 2016 / 6:33 PM

    Congratulations on your marriage! Being a military spouse is such a unique position to be in life – wishing you and your husbands many blessing while he is deployed!

  26. December 30, 2016 / 6:56 PM

    Taylor! A huge CONGRATS to you! Having things to YOUR story is what makes it even more special. I can’t wait to tune in for the wedding planning and your DRESS! These photos are stunning – you two are such a handsome coupl! Sending you so much LOVE!!!! x Shannon

  27. December 30, 2016 / 9:29 PM

    Aww, congrats girl! I’m so happy for the two of you. Welcome to the married club! I’m sure it must provide Scott with a sense of relief ( and security) when he leaves for his tours. Being a military spouse is not easy, having to move around a lot and the worry that comes with deployment… You are one tough cookie! What I learned from my wedding is that the people that love you guys will be happy for you no matter what! Thank you for sharing with us! Congrats again! Wishing you both all the best for 2017!

    xo, Jackie
    stylemydreams.com

  28. December 30, 2016 / 9:45 PM

    Phew! I didn’t know what you were going to say, but yay for the both of you. Congrats on your new life journey together! Wishing you nothing but the best and hopes that everyone understand your decision. Xoxo

  29. Nataly
    December 30, 2016 / 9:49 PM

    Congrats girl! This wonderful news! I am so very happy for you and your hubby! Wishing you the best 2017 yet! xo

  30. Vanessa
    December 30, 2016 / 10:09 PM

    I love this. It saddens me sometimes to see how stressed couples get because of the social “norms” involved with marriage. I’m glad you two went along your own beaten path!

    Vanessa | http://www.vanessarenae.com

  31. December 30, 2016 / 11:17 PM

    Congrats, Taylor!!!! When it comes to love there is no, or shouldn’t be any, judging. You gotta do what you gotta do and what works for you. I can’t wait to follow along your epic wedding plans and your love story as it continues. Much love to you both! XO ~Anna http://www.pepperedinstyle.com

  32. December 31, 2016 / 12:28 AM

    “I am a wife. I have a husband. I am a military spouse. And I am the happiest girl in the world.” This. I can’t even express how much I relate to this. I am so proud of you for sharing this and being so open and vulnerable. Any relationship is hard- the military just takes it to the next level. Drew and I got married quicker than planned because we didn’t want to wait a year while he was deployed. People thought we were crazy but we have absolutely no regrets! Love you. Hugs, Kait
    http://www.baskinginburgundy.com

  33. December 31, 2016 / 6:13 AM

    Aww Taylor, this is great news! Congratulations to you and Scott – I’m so happy for you both! I wish you all the joy and happiness that you deserve. Xoxo

  34. Nichole Gallagher
    December 31, 2016 / 4:36 PM

    Hey girly, CONGRATS!!!!! <3 I can't imagine the anxiety, fear, somewhat sadness of not being able to share this for SO LONG! YAY!!! I seriously cannot wait to hear what you guys are going to do in 2018 … sounds freaking epic and you only said a few words hahahah ~ It has got to feel especially good to get this off of your chest before he leaves !!! Even though we don't know each other like that, I'm proud of you and I'm so stinking excited for you guys =) Congrats again and I'll be toasting to you guys tonight!!

  35. December 31, 2016 / 5:29 PM

    CONGRATS!!!! I can see nothing but pure joy illuminating from the two of you!! I am SO happy for you!! Praying for grace and strength while he is away!!

  36. December 31, 2016 / 7:45 PM

    Awww so happy for you Taylor and a big Congrats, both on the wedding and being able to open up and tell the world about it! The ring, wedding, etc are not more important than being in love and wanting to share the rest of your lives together no matter what. You two are adorable and I am sure you have a lot of great things in store for the both of you. Can’t wait to follow along all your backwards journey! Here’s to a wonderful 2017 and beyond.
    xx, Kusum | http://www.sveeteskapes.com

  37. January 1, 2017 / 11:28 PM

    Taylor this is so beautiful and such a definition of love!!! F the status quo seriously!!! I’m so proud of you and thanks for sharing this brave story! Happy new year gorgeous! Xxxxx

  38. January 2, 2017 / 2:09 AM

    Taylor, Congratulations!!! I am SO happy for you and so excited for you and your hubby to start your new chapter together. Wishing you all the best my friend!
    xoxo, Jenna
    Boston Chic Party

  39. January 2, 2017 / 2:15 PM

    Congrats on sharing your news!! I’m sure it wasn’t easy keeping a secret like that, and it probably feels SO good to have it out in the open. Wishing you and your HUSBAND a wonderful new year!! xo

  40. January 4, 2017 / 3:48 PM

    Congratulations! That must have been such a hard secret to keep. Can’t wait to start witnesding your wedding plans! Happy 2017!

  41. January 5, 2017 / 3:01 AM

    I just stumbled upon your Instagram & then this blog post, and I’m so glad I did! My husband is also military and we did the exact same thing! I never announced it like this though, and there are many times I wish that I had (we pretended to most people that our wedding ceremony was when we really got married). You rock for sharing this awesome news with the world! I’m learning that doing it this way is more common than I thought among military couples ;). Cheers to doing things how you want and CONGRATS on becoming a wifey!!! xoxo

    • tayloraube
      January 5, 2017 / 1:13 PM

      Thank you so much for your kind words Bethany. Isn’t it crazy how many women are in such similar situations, yet there is still a slight stigma about “the way it’s supposed to be done”? As we both know the military certainly does not cater to that ideology! Thank you again!!

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